I replace the holes in me with sex, pot and alcohol. It makes me feel better for the moment but make the hole even bigger for next time. Pray for me please I hate being called a stoner and I don’t want to disobey my parents anymore. I feel like every lie I tell them makes both them and I weaker
Let me begin by first saying...I believe in you and I believe that you can get out of this whole that you have dug for yourself!
I would be very interested to know what the "holes" are in your life. Those are things that you need to look at and address to be fully able to move beyond the masks of lying, sex, pot and alcohol. If you can address those issues, simply by starting at verbalizing what they are, it will give you a much clearer path to move forward on. Take some time to slow down and think through that and then write them down. Once you have, as best you can, identified those, find someone that you can talk with, a counselor or pastor, who will help you walk through caring for each issue and hurt. Know that this process will take some time. Don't go in with the expectation that it can all go away overnight. You have created habits that you will need to break, and that often times is difficult to do....but it is very possible!! The guilt and shame you feel (not wanting to be called a stoner or guilt from lying to your parents), satan is going to use that to tell you small subtle little lies that make you believe that you can't do it, that you can't change! DON'T BELIEVE THOSE LIES! They are just lies and they are not what God has for you! Remember God has already conquered death and sin, and that means He has beaten your struggle already and you just need to trust and follow Him through the process of healing.
Here are a few things that I want to encourage you with as you begin climbing up out of the hole you are in:
First, know that God has forgiven you :
"as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. " Psalm 103:12
Second, focus yourself around where you want to be, not necessarily where you are :
"for where you heart is, there your heart will be also." Matthew 6:22
Third, think about who you are spending the majority of your time with. If those people encourage you in anyway to participate in the behaviors you want to get away from it's probably time to separate yourself from them, at least for a little while.
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
Fourth, Trust in God! It's a tough journey, but one you CAN do!
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6
These definitely are not all your answers, but they are a really good place to start! You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
Let me begin by first saying...I believe in you and I believe that you can get out of this whole that you have dug for yourself!
I would be very interested to know what the "holes" are in your life. Those are things that you need to look at and address to be fully able to move beyond the masks of lying, sex, pot and alcohol. If you can address those issues, simply by starting at verbalizing what they are, it will give you a much clearer path to move forward on. Take some time to slow down and think through that and then write them down. Once you have, as best you can, identified those, find someone that you can talk with, a counselor or pastor, who will help you walk through caring for each issue and hurt. Know that this process will take some time. Don't go in with the expectation that it can all go away overnight. You have created habits that you will need to break, and that often times is difficult to do....but it is very possible!! The guilt and shame you feel (not wanting to be called a stoner or guilt from lying to your parents), satan is going to use that to tell you small subtle little lies that make you believe that you can't do it, that you can't change! DON'T BELIEVE THOSE LIES! They are just lies and they are not what God has for you! Remember God has already conquered death and sin, and that means He has beaten your struggle already and you just need to trust and follow Him through the process of healing.
Here are a few things that I want to encourage you with as you begin climbing up out of the hole you are in:
First, know that God has forgiven you :
"as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. " Psalm 103:12
Second, focus yourself around where you want to be, not necessarily where you are :
"for where you heart is, there your heart will be also." Matthew 6:22
Third, think about who you are spending the majority of your time with. If those people encourage you in anyway to participate in the behaviors you want to get away from it's probably time to separate yourself from them, at least for a little while.
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
Fourth, Trust in God! It's a tough journey, but one you CAN do!
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6
These definitely are not all your answers, but they are a really good place to start! You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
