Ever since I was little I have always thought that I was stupid and still to this day I believe it. My dad always tells me I’m not good enough for anything and won’t get anywhere in life and I just want him to be happy in me. I need help.
I'm sorry that someone in your past said whatever they said to make you believe that you are stupid. This is not true! You are NOT stupid! Just check out who created you and how you were created :
God is the creator!
"To whom will you compare me? Or who is my equal? says the Holy One. Lift your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one, and calls them each by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing." Isaiah 40:25-26
God created you in his image!
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them." Genesis 1:27
I'm sorry that someone in your past said whatever they said to make you believe that you are stupid. This is not true! You are NOT stupid! Just check out who created you and how you were created :
God is the creator!
"To whom will you compare me? Or who is my equal? says the Holy One. Lift your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one, and calls them each by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing." Isaiah 40:25-26
God created you in his image!
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them." Genesis 1:27
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb."
Psalm 139:13
God created you! He knows you! And he doesn't make mistakes! You are an image of Him, the creator of the universe, this means you can't be anything less than marvelous! You are marvelous!
Ok, so hold on to that truth! Now as we look at your relationship with your dad, I feel confident to say that your dad's words to you are a reflection of hurt and pain he has in his own life, most likely things that he has not dealt with and very possibly things he may not be aware of. These are not your issues! You most likely will not be able to change them. All you need to know is that when you are verbally attacked in this way, it's not you, it's his hurt!
Now with that said, your desire to have him be happy with you, well, I really want to encourage you to first start and begin to find happiness with yourself. Go through the process to believe in who you are, that you are valuable, that you are a really important part of this world! Surround yourself with others who see and know that about you and encourage you in that truth. As you have that foundation of truth to stand on you will be much stronger and able to address the issue with your dad. As you begin to do this, it is often very helpful to have an objective person to help you learn how to do this. A counselor is trained and prepared to help with this. I would really encourage you to connect to a counselor and allow them the opportunity to walk with you through this and to help you heal! Remember, You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
