There is definitely a pattern to your journey. If you step back and look at what you wrote, and do a bit of re-ordering, you will see the downward progression in your hurt. Maybe you know this, it's a bit of a "duh" statement, but I will say it anyway, you feel a lack of acceptance, because others have treated you wrongly and have hurt you in your life. This feeling, coupled with what I could only believe is a "this is not fair" feeling, creates the anger problems. Then the weight of it all is effecting the other areas of your life, i.e. grades. Your thoughts for sure beg more questions to help with some clarity, but I will do my best to answer what I can without knowing more detail to the issues and hurt. For the molestation, you were violated and wronged. This does not define who you are. You are and will always be a creation of God (Psalm 139:13-14). This event in your life is horrible, but you will heal. Remember that you are defined by how you are created, don't let yourself become defined by how others treat you. Also, this is a major offense and is at a high nature and need of being reported. This is difficult to do, but is healthy for your process and creating safety for potential other victims. Any counselor, guidance counselor or pastor can lead you through that difficult, but right process. I highly encourage you to follow up with this immediately. For the broken heart and lost friendships, when you choose to love, whether in a friendship, dating relationship or even family, you risk hurt. It's a choice that comes with love and an effect of the brokenness of our human nature. Healing will take time, broken hearts are big wounds. There may be things you have added to your pain, and definitely areas that others involved added, without details I cannot address those specifically. But generally speaking and moving forward, guard your heart. Surround yourself with friendships and dating relationships that will honor who you are and share your values and morals. If you spend your time and give your heart to risky people, you are opening up to a higher potential of hurt. You deserve to be loved right and well, sometimes you won't be able to avoid difficult and hurtful relationships, but in the situations you can influence, choose to risk your heart with the healthiest possible situations. For example...if you don't want to get hurt, or treated wrong, don't give your heart to someone who has a consistent record of treating people badly and hurting them. There is a good chance they will do the same to you. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a. This is what true love is in all relationships. Now, not to short change you, but I believe the other issues are collateral effects of what I have already addressed. As you change and address these first issues the issues of acceptance, anger and grades will be resolved in the process. Of course, again, with more detail, there could be more specific direction. We are always available for you and would love to connect with you and even potentially connect you with a HSL Leader who will journey through all this with you. I believe communication heals...find someone to talk to, someone who fits the bill in 1 Corinthians 13 and someone who is farther in the journey than you, meaning someone who's has a bit more life experience and is objective. You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
Molested, broken heart, lost friendships, anger problems, grades, acceptance
There is definitely a pattern to your journey. If you step back and look at what you wrote, and do a bit of re-ordering, you will see the downward progression in your hurt. Maybe you know this, it's a bit of a "duh" statement, but I will say it anyway, you feel a lack of acceptance, because others have treated you wrongly and have hurt you in your life. This feeling, coupled with what I could only believe is a "this is not fair" feeling, creates the anger problems. Then the weight of it all is effecting the other areas of your life, i.e. grades. Your thoughts for sure beg more questions to help with some clarity, but I will do my best to answer what I can without knowing more detail to the issues and hurt. For the molestation, you were violated and wronged. This does not define who you are. You are and will always be a creation of God (Psalm 139:13-14). This event in your life is horrible, but you will heal. Remember that you are defined by how you are created, don't let yourself become defined by how others treat you. Also, this is a major offense and is at a high nature and need of being reported. This is difficult to do, but is healthy for your process and creating safety for potential other victims. Any counselor, guidance counselor or pastor can lead you through that difficult, but right process. I highly encourage you to follow up with this immediately. For the broken heart and lost friendships, when you choose to love, whether in a friendship, dating relationship or even family, you risk hurt. It's a choice that comes with love and an effect of the brokenness of our human nature. Healing will take time, broken hearts are big wounds. There may be things you have added to your pain, and definitely areas that others involved added, without details I cannot address those specifically. But generally speaking and moving forward, guard your heart. Surround yourself with friendships and dating relationships that will honor who you are and share your values and morals. If you spend your time and give your heart to risky people, you are opening up to a higher potential of hurt. You deserve to be loved right and well, sometimes you won't be able to avoid difficult and hurtful relationships, but in the situations you can influence, choose to risk your heart with the healthiest possible situations. For example...if you don't want to get hurt, or treated wrong, don't give your heart to someone who has a consistent record of treating people badly and hurting them. There is a good chance they will do the same to you. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a. This is what true love is in all relationships. Now, not to short change you, but I believe the other issues are collateral effects of what I have already addressed. As you change and address these first issues the issues of acceptance, anger and grades will be resolved in the process. Of course, again, with more detail, there could be more specific direction. We are always available for you and would love to connect with you and even potentially connect you with a HSL Leader who will journey through all this with you. I believe communication heals...find someone to talk to, someone who fits the bill in 1 Corinthians 13 and someone who is farther in the journey than you, meaning someone who's has a bit more life experience and is objective. You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
There is definitely a pattern to your journey. If you step back and look at what you wrote, and do a bit of re-ordering, you will see the downward progression in your hurt. Maybe you know this, it's a bit of a "duh" statement, but I will say it anyway, you feel a lack of acceptance, because others have treated you wrongly and have hurt you in your life. This feeling, coupled with what I could only believe is a "this is not fair" feeling, creates the anger problems. Then the weight of it all is effecting the other areas of your life, i.e. grades. Your thoughts for sure beg more questions to help with some clarity, but I will do my best to answer what I can without knowing more detail to the issues and hurt. For the molestation, you were violated and wronged. This does not define who you are. You are and will always be a creation of God (Psalm 139:13-14). This event in your life is horrible, but you will heal. Remember that you are defined by how you are created, don't let yourself become defined by how others treat you. Also, this is a major offense and is at a high nature and need of being reported. This is difficult to do, but is healthy for your process and creating safety for potential other victims. Any counselor, guidance counselor or pastor can lead you through that difficult, but right process. I highly encourage you to follow up with this immediately. For the broken heart and lost friendships, when you choose to love, whether in a friendship, dating relationship or even family, you risk hurt. It's a choice that comes with love and an effect of the brokenness of our human nature. Healing will take time, broken hearts are big wounds. There may be things you have added to your pain, and definitely areas that others involved added, without details I cannot address those specifically. But generally speaking and moving forward, guard your heart. Surround yourself with friendships and dating relationships that will honor who you are and share your values and morals. If you spend your time and give your heart to risky people, you are opening up to a higher potential of hurt. You deserve to be loved right and well, sometimes you won't be able to avoid difficult and hurtful relationships, but in the situations you can influence, choose to risk your heart with the healthiest possible situations. For example...if you don't want to get hurt, or treated wrong, don't give your heart to someone who has a consistent record of treating people badly and hurting them. There is a good chance they will do the same to you. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a. This is what true love is in all relationships. Now, not to short change you, but I believe the other issues are collateral effects of what I have already addressed. As you change and address these first issues the issues of acceptance, anger and grades will be resolved in the process. Of course, again, with more detail, there could be more specific direction. We are always available for you and would love to connect with you and even potentially connect you with a HSL Leader who will journey through all this with you. I believe communication heals...find someone to talk to, someone who fits the bill in 1 Corinthians 13 and someone who is farther in the journey than you, meaning someone who's has a bit more life experience and is objective. You are valuable, and we love you! You are in our prayers!
